Read This First — page 7

Keep her entertained.

Make sure she likes you.

And the more attractive she is, the worse it gets.

Suddenly you're not having a conversation anymore. You're performing.

She becomes the judge.

You become the contestant.

And you're desperately waiting to find out whether you've made it through to the next round.

That's a terrible position to put yourself in.

Your job isn't to make a woman like you.

You can't.

Attraction doesn't work like that.

You can improve your appearance. You can become fitter, funnier, more confident, more socially skilled and more interesting. You can learn to flirt. You can get better at conversation. You can stop behaving in ways that kill attraction before it has a chance to develop.

All of that matters.

But eventually two people either respond to each other or they don't.

And that's good news.

Because dating gets dramatically easier once you stop asking:

"How do I get her to like me?"

and start asking:

"Do we actually like each other?"

That sounds like a small change.

It isn't.

It changes everything.

You stop chasing women who are giving you nothing back.

You stop treating rejection as proof that something is wrong with you.

You stop agreeing with everything she says because you're afraid she'll lose interest.

You stop pretending you're not attracted to her because some guy on YouTube told you showing interest is "needy."

And you start doing something far more attractive: